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Behind the Scenes: Alaska Chick on Growing Up

Growing Up

At age 4, my little Chicklet started talking about “growing up.” I suppose it was to be expected, as her big brother was then, 13 years old and pushing boundaries almost constantly. Growing up, can be a blessing to ourselves, as well as the world.

Behind the Scenes, is our spin on the interview process, asking the hard, strange and unexpected questions that no one dares to ask. I’m up first. Let’s do it!

The question I chose out of the lottery chosen clicked with me right off the bat. First, I feel that I can answer this question as “growing up” was a strange and very uncomfortable process for me. Second, I remember every moment of that particular struggle and now have the power to share it with others, possibly feeling the same isolated and slightly crazy thoughts that were felt by me, umm, not that long ago in the great scheme of things.

“What is the hardest thing about growing up?”

“I can teach anybody how to get what they want out of life.  The problem is that I can’t find anybody who can tell me what they want.”  ~Mark Twain

“We worry about what a child will become tomorrow, yet we forget that he is someone today.” ~Stacia Tauscher

“It’s a helluva start, being able to recognize what makes you happy.” ~Lucille Ball

“You’ve got to do your own growing, no matter how tall your grandfather was.”  ~Irish Proverb

“Leaving home in a sense involves a kind of second birth in which we give birth to ourselves.”  ~Robert Neelly Bellah, Habits of the Heart, 1985

First, what is “growing up”?  Is it moving out of your parent’s house? Is it paying your own bills? Is it a certain age? Is it getting married? Every search I ran online says “growing up” means to become an adult. (huh. yeah, thanks, THAT explains a lot.)

“Adult” is simply stated as “one who has attained maturity or legal age“.

Growing up, to my mind and in my own experience is fully accepting responsibility of yourself. Accepting the responsibilities of your own actions, your own growth, your own contributions to the world.

“What is the hardest thing about growing up?”

Growing Up

From my own experience, it isn’t a job, I had a full time job with more than 40 hours a week by the time I was 14 years old. It isn’t a higher education or training, I joined the United States Navy at 16 years old, with a New York State Regents diploma, a signed affidavit (permission) from my Mom and the Governor of NY; spending the next 6 years in A-School and Desert Storm.

Among so many other titles and hats that I wear these days, I am also the Lead Guide Trainer for Pioneer Outfitters Survival & Guide Training program. Over the last decade, the Alaska Guide Trainees have gotten younger, until now, the majority of our Trainees are fresh from high school and home.

“Just when I think I have learned the way to live, life changes.”  ~Hugh Prather

“The man who views the world at fifty the same as he did at twenty has wasted thirty years of his life.”  ~Muhammad Ali

“It is only when we silent the blaring sounds of our daily existence that we can finally hear the whispers of truth that life reveals to us, as it stands knocking on the doorsteps of our hearts.”  ~K.T. Jong

“People often say that this or that person has not yet found himself.  But the self is not something one finds, it is something one creates.”  ~Thomas Szasz, “Personal Conduct,” The Second Sin, 1973

“The greatest explorer on this earth never takes voyages as long as those of the man who descends to the depth of his heart.”  ~Julien Green

“All men should strive
to learn before they die
what they are running from, and to, and why.”
~James Thurber

“What is the hardest thing about growing up?”

It has been for me, at the very least, a most humbling experience, watching these young men (and women) stretching their own wings and mindset. Yes, I have felt many things watching my own mistakes being made and missteps being taken taken, again. A rush of memories so strong, old hated enemies, fears disguised as events, that took so long to conquer; there have been moments that I want to just send them all home to their own Mothers and Fathers for guidance that will help them avoid the most painful of these.

“I thought growing up was something that happened automatically as you got older.  But it turns out it’s something you have to choose to do.”  ~From the television show Scrubs

“To the question of your life, you are the only answer.  To the problems of your life, you are the only solution.” ~Jo Coudert, Advice From A Failure

“A single event can awaken within us a stranger totally unknown to us. To live is to be slowly born.” ~Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, Flight to Arras, 1942, translated from French

“Your work is to discover your world and then with all your heart give yourself to it.”  ~Buddha

“What is the hardest thing about growing up?”

For myself, I would say the hardest thing about growing up is the time it takes, the years upon years spent (read: wasted) believing that I was “grown up” when in hindsight (yeah, I wouldn’t mind a sudden blindness there, either ☺)I was actually very lucky to survive myself!

“In the United States today, there is a pervasive tendency to treat children as adults, and adults as children.  The options of children are thus steadily expanded, while those of adults are progressively constricted.  The result is unruly children and childish adults”.  ~Thomas Szasz

“You cannot fully understand your own life without knowing and thinking beyond your life, your own neighborhood, and even your own nation.”  ~Johnnetta Cole

“Just remember, there’s a right way and a wrong way to do everything and the wrong way is to keep trying to make everybody else do it the right way.”  ~ Colonel Potter (MASH, television show)

“I learned this, at least, by my experiment; that if one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours…. In proportion as he simplifies his life, the laws of the universe will appear less complex, and solitude will not be solitude, nor poverty poverty, nor weakness weakness.”  ~Henry David Thoreau

“It’s a dangerous business, Frodo, going out of your door,” he used to say.  “You step into the Road, and if you don’t keep your feet, there is no knowing where you might be swept off to.”  ~J.R.R. Tolkien, “Three Is Company,” The Lord of the Rings: The Fellowship of the Ring, 1954

“The future lies before you, like paths of pure white snow. Be careful how you tread it, for every step will show.” ~Author Unknown

“I believe that every right implies a responsibility; every opportunity, an obligation; every possession, a duty.”  ~John D. Rockefeller, Jr.

“We have the Bill of Rights.  What we need is a Bill of Responsibilities.”  ~Bill Maher

“Few things help an individual more than to place responsibility upon him, and to let him know that you trust him.”  ~Booker T. Washington

“Age is a high price to pay for maturity.”  ~Tom Stoppard

“I spent my 30s fixing everything I broke in my 20s.”  ~Eddie Murphy

“True terror is to wake up one morning and discover that your high school class is running the country.”  ~Kurt Vonnegut

If I could share just one thing, that I knew without any doubt that it would be absorbed, believed and lived, it would be: “Think Bigger.

Think bigger than today, bigger than only yourself, bigger than the town or city you are living in, bigger than the work you have done. YOU are so much, more, than you think you are and so much smaller too. Hang in there. Don’t give up or quit. Aim higher. Do more. Look closely at yourself, especially when things go wrong or upset you. Walk your Talk, always.

Growing Up

Now! Ok, you all know I spend HOURS on here, online, researching, studying, writing and all that other goo-losh, creating these posts for you to read and if I am lucky, share. Well, I found a strange and funny (to me, anyhow) way for people to check themselves, if they are indeed “grown up.”

You know you have finally reached that Holy Grail of “Grown Up” when an individual has learned to stop:

  • Playing videogames (Especially with Nintendo.)
  • Being a follower, always a follower. (Get yourself a unique persona!)
  • Wasting their time on Facebook ~ Not working. (Facebook is boring, you have no life.)
  • Acting ghetto. (Which includes dressing ghetto and speaking ghetto.)~I am not even sure what this is!
  • Saying words like “dude”, “nigga”, “noob”, etc. (Believe me, most people I know who use these words are unsuccessful in life.)~ My Mom would slap me silly, even today!
  • Making their parents mad. (Learn to respect your parents.)
  • Being a fucking asshole (Stop it!)
  • Eating kiddie food, for every meal, every day. (Ravioli, grilled cheese with American cheese, etc. )
  • Waking up late (The earlier you get up, show up, the more you will learn, see and do.)
  • Sharing things like clothes, shoes, cosmetics, etc. (Buy your own stuff. Sheesh!)
  • Caring about gossip. (Mind your own business.)
  • Talkin lik dis. (Are you retarded or something?)
  • Dressing like a fruitcake. (Weird)
  • Stop being and making it the goal in your life to be one of the “popular” kids (Most “popular” kids usually end up being losers.)
  • Being lazy. (Self explanatory.)
  • Being a pussy. (Get some confidence, have some pride, even if you have to fake it till you get over it…and yourself.)

BTW ~ (I found this, and yes, made a few minor changes to make it acceptable for mixed company! I found this particular list with the Urban Dictionary, and I should mention it can be quite obnoxious for some.)

This wraps up our first in series of Behind the Scenes. Next up: Alaska Guide Trainee “Coso” Coston Smith, in June. I hope you enjoyed it.

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